It’s a common fear and one that keeps some from touching their loved ones.
Here’s a direct quote: “I’ve never given touch to elderly family members who were very ill and frail. Why? Fear of hurting them.”
It’s real. When your loved-one is ill and frail, the fear of hurting them is front and center… as it should be. As you consider providing gentle-touch massage for your loved-one, DO NO HARM is paramount.
That’s why I teach simple touch techniques that are Shorter, Slower and Softer while encouraging Full-Hand Contact:
- Shorter sessions – 20-minute sessions are effective in providing rest, relaxation and comfort.
- Slower strokes – engages the central nervous system – specifically the parasympathetic nervous system allowing rest and digest.
- Softer pressure – gentle pressure is a must for those with advanced illness. Heavy massage puts more demand on the body and can make your loved-one feel worse.
- Full-hand contact – using the entire surface of your hand as you massage provides added comfort.
Don’t let fear keep you from touching your loved-one. It’s a very basic human need. Your loved-one deserves your gentle, loving touch.