The Impact of my Work – ProgressiveMassageTherapy

The referral form indicates “possible end of life”.

I call the number listed as the Primary Caregiver to visit with them about their loved-one being referred for massage. The call goes to the facility; I learn Mr. B has no other caregivers.

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I arrive at the care facility, stop at the desk to introduce myself and ask for directions to his room.

I arrive at room 206. The door is closed so I knock. Voices inside say, “Be right with you.” A few minutes later, the door opens and two aides leave the room and invite me in.

There lay Mr. B. Thin–very thin, frail, breathing rapidly. He just received a bath. An oxygen concentrator is nearby and a cannula is in his nostrils, but he’s breathing heavily through his mouth. Eyes are partially open. His face turned slightly toward me. He’s unable to speak or acknowledge my presence.

Moving slowly and intentionally, I introduce myself and explain my purpose. I ask about soft music and assure him I’ll turn it off if he doesn’t enjoy it.

I wash my hands, pull my stool up to the side of the bed and gently place my hands on his upper arm and shoulder. I sit in this position for a while and then uncover his arm to expose his hand.

My left hand holds his, as my right hand gently strokes his brow and scalp. He’s warm – possibly a slight fever. A bump over one eye tells me he ran into something or maybe a fall.

I see a certificate on the wall – he’s a veteran. I hear the nurses and aides in the hallway going about their work. I hear a Code Blue called… twice.

I stay with him; calmly, softly, intentionally. Soft music playing, my hand in his, stroking his brow. His breathing slows.

I stay a bit longer, grateful for the opportunity to be with this precious man at this particular time in this particular place.

It’s time to go. I thank him for allowing me to be with him. I wash my hands, stop the music, pack my things and tell him good-bye.

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I learn the next day, Mr. B died about 2 hours after I left him.

This work has great impact. I’m very grateful to have had the opportunity to be with him during his last hours on this earth. My heart is full.

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